Previously, I interviewed Ms Eileen about her decision to start rebuilding her closet from near-scratch due to life and body changes—and her trust that my BTDT self could be of use as she shopped and evaluated. After sharing how we came up with a baseline color palette for her to use, I also provided detail shots of clothing that she felt communicated her three primary style loves: opulent, rugged, and boho.
Before Eileen and I headed off to shop, I had her do a little homework. She’d already identified herself as a high-hipped Hourglass (8 shape) and read up on proportions that should work well. But that wasn’t enough: before we stepped foot into spaces designed to suck money from her pockets and/or overwhelm as many senses as they could, I needed her to be calmish and clearish on her innate style preferences.
What better method to help her get to the heart of things that that of my eye doctor?
After wandering the internet, I sent her photo sets of gorgeous fuller-figured models and bloggers—chosen to offset her concerns that a 5’5 size 12-14 frame was particularly limiting—and had her choose between 1…or 2. “Bold print or subtle?” “Fitted or unstructured?” “Detailed or streamlined?” “Heavily accessorized or minimalist?” “Color-color or neutral?” “Drape-y or structured?”
Of course she wasn’t ALWAYS choosing one direction over another, but patterns and percentages emerged—mostly that with a bit of this, or when X then Y. And once we got shopping, she found her likes and dislikes of items or pairings were usually in line with her earlier picks.
Q: Here’s what I observed from your homework exercise and shopping with you:
“Whether you’re exploring your love of opulence, ruggedness, or boho two undercurrents are constant:
- When you choose lots of detailing or print, you like to keep the overall shape relatively simple
- You like to mix highly practical items with luxurious-feeling, often-natural fabric and/or pieces with ‘special’ detailing
A: ”Agree! And if you make me sum things up more I’d say I go for refined practicality (with a leaning towards the sumptuous).”
HOLY STYLE BREAKTHROUGH, BATMAN
Clearly this newfound level of confidence deserved a little attention. So on a chilly overcast Saturday my friend Arinna, past Eileen client, current covet-er of Eileen’s new clothes, volunteered to be on the other side of the “beauty maker” reflector. I handled the camera and coached our model on posing.
[As I only have one pose, she quickly overtook me.]
Eileen goes from photographer to star of the show in a lush, colorful print top that ties at the waist plus a textured cardigan
Eileen pairs dark wash skinny jeans, a mildly heeled black bootie, and a textured black cardigan with a lush and colorful silk print top
Q: You say you hate to shop and you dressed in a fairly nondescript way for years. Yet your first two days of shopping you choose a lot of “icing” pieces—very memorable, high-drama items. And what wasn’t icing was quite “cake-y”—detailed, luxurious.
“I had to armtwist you to look at basics when I thought it would be the other way around!”
A: ”I think I was more ready to change than I realized. More ready to stand out.
“And I do hate to shop. That’s mainly because most of the things I like don’t fit me. I was the same when I was 17 and quite literally a walking skeleton.
“I should add that I grew up in house full of women who were geniuses with fabric, patterns and sewing machines. They made clothing to fit. So, I naturally have higher expectations of clothing options.
“Fortunately, it seems that bigger sizes are more readily available these days. There could be more, but it’s better. I admit starting off with shoe and bra shopping was a good choice.”
Q: ”Things looked brighter after you were in the proper size, right?”
A: ”Yes. I carry weight in my stomach, and with the right bra size I had much more of a waist. Just like all the style shows tell you!”
Vintage-inspired jacket with leather trim plus a knit pencil skirt and ready-to-kick-ass knee-high moto boots
L, Buckling the moto boots; R, Eileen teams the boots and knit pencil skirt with a lightweight wool top and deco-tastic belt
Q: ”Let’s talk about body proportions and touch on your body insecurities.”
Q: ”I don’t need the worst-day nitpicky stuff, Ms Well-Endowed Hourglass, just some quick context.”
A: ”Okay. I mentioned my stomach. I like the way the patterns we found really drew attention away from that area. I am giving up boxy because when I belt or wear things that fit to me I think I look a lot better. Why did I stop that? (I am a little short-waisted for belts to be 100% ideal.)
“The bust area…sometimes I’m self-conscious. Lower necklines are flattering but tough for me. I think I got a range of necklines that feel good for now. I have to ease out of the black crewneck T shirts!”
A seamed wool knit jacket in one of Eileen's best neutrals, grey, tops a print top and dark wash jeans
Q: ”I kept reminding you what I remind myself: many things can be altered or it’s the damn clothes that are wrong, not the body. Did that help?”
A: ”Sometimes more, sometimes less. I still have to deal with fit issues!”
Q: ”Let me switch gears a bit. EM Forster has a line about his conventional heroine and her masterful, passionate piano-playing:
‘If Miss Honeychurch ever takes to live as she plays, it will be very exciting both for us and for her.’
“You are super soft-spoken and self-effacing and analytical, and from your ‘before’ style people who don’t know you and your photography—aka your workmates—wouldn’t realize you had this whole bold, creative, drama-loving side. Do you realize it might not be a secret anymore?”
With a layered-sleeve sweaterdress, Eileen finds a way to do Boho Vamp
Next: Part 3 of Eileen exorcises her wardrobe demons, in which outfits and others’ reactions both feature
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