Gratuitous Color Shot # 10: Rorschach test

There’ve been times in my life when I’ve taken others’ beliefs about me—good or bad—way too much to heart. Sure, well-adjusted people say it’s a waste of emotional energy to try to stay up on a perceptional pedestal or climb out of its flip side: the pit. But who would I be if I couldn’t tie myself in knots over things I can’t control?

Gradually, however, I’ve learned that it behooves me to stop, look, and listen when a new perspective arrives on the scene.

And having received an A+ in Advanced Narcissism 439, I’ve discovered that turning outward can actually help me can process faster than inward reflection. So I find an object or view with a lot of contrasts and start with broad black/white questions like:

  • Is the landscaping upstaging the mosaic or softening its jagged shapes?
  • Are the matte stone slabs depressingly drab or a charming counterpoint to the bursts of color?
  • Does the house’s paint scheme undercut the fountain’s design or help create an integrated whole?

A balanced mix of natural and artificial, of straight and curved, of bold and quiet…or is it?

With my own preferences established, I then try to explore the nuances and possibilities. Maybe the wayward Euphorbia would be less attention-grabbing if staked up a bit. Perhaps the stone slabs could try a stain. Potentially the under-porch lattice could benefit from soft plantings.

Or possibly everything is fine just as it is; possibly it’s once again the disparate parts that make the complicated whole function.

Of course such intellectual exercises are all well and good, but the question remains: what happens when our own beliefs run smack up against outsiders’ opinions of us?

Me, I’m demanding the right to reject those perspectives without penalty—and accepting that I have a responsibility not to hold others’ reactions against them. [I find the first delightfully freeing and the latter tedious, but fair is fair.]

From there? Che sarà, sarà (or as Ms Doris Day sang: que sera, sera)….

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2 Responses

  1. Vix Vix Vix…To be in your brain for just a day!

    Now ‘splain…Is that cacophony of color yours????!

  2. Ms L—

    At the end of 24 hours, you’d be thinking that old tagline: “A mind is a terrible thing to waste.”

    I wish that were my yard…just a “Sunday stroll” find. I can barely get clean towels on the rods, let alone whip THAT up! [We can't all be you, my dear...though we may aspire!]

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